Healing Our Relationships – Love and Oneness Meditation

Of all the types of meditations that I know, I believe this one gets the most profound results in terms of human relationships. Through the practice it can heal deep emotional wounds. Healing our relationships with the Love and Oneness meditation really works. We all like to feel elated about life and living.

Using this process develops compassion, the release of old emotional chords tied to past events and relationships, allowing you to experience a greater freedom to receive love in your own life, engaging more joy and fulfillment.

Most of us abhor conflict and will do almost anything to avoid it, including self-sabotage. The last thing we generally want to do is confront someone with whom we have an issue, so we dance through avoidance patterns, both internal and external.

These usually cause internal strife rather than eliminating it, which we could avoid if we simply communicated our feelings. We fear abandonment, loss of job, rejection from the group, or some other equally important fear. What if we were actually creating those fears by our own misperceptions? Hmmm….

The limiting sensations of fear control our minds and hearts when it comes to addressing things that are ‘out of order’ in our lives. Fear has been part of human nature for millennia for survival reasons. Emotional fears are created because our inability to negotiate the feelings of perceived conflict, often known as the ‘fight or flight’ syndrome.

Religious fears are created from lack of understanding, threat of expulsion or false belief systems. A popular acronym for F.E.A.R., False Evidence Appearing Real, is an amusing yet accurate description of fear. Most of our fears are simply due to our lack of understanding the evidence clearly.

In reality, if we acknowledge the Omnipotence, Omnipresence and Omniscience of our Creator(s), then we must also acknowledge that the L.O.V.E. (Limitless Oscillating Vibrational Energy) in each of us, is sharable; unqualified by human emotions (good or evil) and therefore anthropic (life-friendly) by nature. So it is with all extraterrestrial civilizations today.

If we choose to commit ourselves to a spiritual path, then it is appropriate for us to learn how to manage our feelings, balance our personal and professional lives, and respond to the people around us with honor and respect, no matter their condition or place in life. Could sharing love [l.o.v.e.] be both a scientific and spiritual truth of connectedness? Profound simplicity is found in this connectedness. The One in Many and Many in One.

Our worlds are rife with distractions and multi-tasking activities that keep us moving at such a rapid pace that being able to quiet the mind is a rare moment in the din. Fast-paced lives rarely have the opportunity to resolve the emotional bumps, knots and punches. The opportunity is present always, though.

Most do not realize there is a choice in the process other than following the lead of the emotionally fear-laden. We like to think that the world is wonderful, including the neighborhood we live in, but the guy next door just killed his wife and nobody saw it coming. How could something like that happen? It really doesn’t matter. It happens too often. The point is we are absent-minded.

Now the last couple of paragraphs hopefully evoked a large swing in feelings in you, sensing the pendulum swing dramatically. The point is that a lack of awareness and ability to manage our emotions can cause aberrant behaviors. The result of highly stressed, unspoken, unfulfilled expectations undoubtedly held because there didn’t appear to be any other choice or opportunity taken to share information.

Something triggers the fear so deeply that unconscionable actions take place. One of the themes of adult psychology is that whatever issues we cannot resolve as teenagers, we continue to repeat as adults until we break the pattern or it breaks us. Does this apply to you now?

In the acting out of the fear response, sometimes the ‘fight or flight syndrome,’ we are literally pre-teen in emotional maturation behavior. As adults we continue the pattern until we recognize and change it. That is a hard one to swallow, yet it is common knowledge in psychology.

Often abductees report being paralyzed during their experience. Others report the same type of experience with relatively no fear or paralyzing. For instance one experiences an anal probe and is unaware of the procedure while another understands the electrodes are being connected to the perineum nerve.

The perineum is a direct-connect to the central nervous system and allows the ‘holistic system’ to be stepped up energetically. The result is a higher vibratory rate for the ‘system.’ A higher vibratory rate allows for greater awareness and sensitivity, resulting in a better communication network between worlds. If you’ve ever had the procedure, the latter will offer a greater understanding and peace.

We build up layers of emotional barriers so that we can keep ourselves free of pain and suffering. Paradoxically, this same pain and suffering allows us to develop compassion and empathy for others. So how do we begin to peel the layers of fear from around our central core of love and reveal the real connection we share as human beings?

This next process is called the ‘Love & Oneness Meditation.’ You do not have to practice any particular faith or believe in any special guru, or even God for that matter, in order for this meditation to work for you. This meditation uses the simple nature of unconditional love [freedom from fear] to work its magic.

Humans are capable of unconditional love even without a belief in God. A belief helps, but is not a prerequisite for the practice. It is a natural product of the human experience. Forgiveness is a byproduct of the process as you release your inner tensions through the practice of this meditation.
Above all… have fun as you explore.

Forgiveness, the act of releasing emotional bindings we place on an event, person or place, allows our energy to become free of bottlenecks nearly immediately. Our natural state of being is that of limitless oscillating vibrational energy.

All things good flow from that river of love. Imagine what might happen if events being held back because of your own constrictions were suddenly released. Would you be ready to receive the wealth meant for you?

Love and Oneness Meditation:


First, grab a pen and several sheets of paper… or sit down in front of your computer with a word processing program up and ready.

Write down every person you know. This may seem like an introduction to network marketing but let me assure you that you will not be making phone calls to everyone.

Do not filter anything… write them all down… every one… associates, friends and perceived enemies. Inclusion of those you do or did not like is very important.

Depending on your age, you should have several hundred to nearly a thousand or more. Take your time… no rush.

Contemplate every aspect and area of your life, especially emotional and physical, and write down all the names, past and present… adversaries, betrayers, cohorts, confidants, enemies, friends, family, lovers and anything else you can imagine.

It may take you several days to compile the list. Be diligent and as complete as possible. Remain as free from emotional entanglements as possible during the process. The simple attraction of their energy as you focus on recalling will begin to create subtle changes because of your sincere intent to love.

With each one of these names, you might have seen their face in your mind’s eye as you thought of them, even if it was just for a brief moment. That is a natural part of the process. We’ll be using your imagery in perfect order next.

You will need to allow yourself plenty of time in a quiet place where you will be undisturbed for the duration. Tell everyone you need some quiet space to do some very important work. If you live by yourself, unplug the phone, and enjoy a lingering moment of solace and solitude. Prepare to transcend your previous emotional state.

Now, sit with your list for a moment before you begin. Practicing the previous ‘releasing’ meditation first, may help to clear any emotional baggage from the day. Just begin to feel the love in your heart that you allow for the greatest ones in your life… your totally connected feeling to ALL THAT IS.

You may normally only reserve this feeling for your children, parents, spouse, teacher, guru, spiritual mentors, etc. Lock it in to your feeling world now by simply feeling a deep sense of awe in the love eternal. If you have difficulty, just think of something inspiring. Open your eyes and begin to read the list now.

Begin with the first name. Read it out loud as you imagine a their face so that you can easily look into their eyes. Look them directly in the eyes and repeat, “I love you…Our purpose is Oneness.” Pause long enough to breathe in and out at least one complete cycle while looking into their eyes. Do this for every name on the list.

If you have less than 20, you haven’t made any effort at all. If you have less than 100, then you are still resisting. If you are in your mid-40s or older, your list ought to be several hundred at least. You may feel you don’t have the time to make the list. Make it anyway. It will be your reward for doing so. You’ll find out soon.

What you will find is that as you picture the face and eyes of each one of these people, you will feel something. What that ‘something’ is will be determined by your relationship with them. Some will have more warmth than others. Those that you have issues with will show up with a feeling of resistance. These are the ones that will help you the most.

There is a zen saying that fits perfectly here and it may make sense to you intuitively. “Do not judge or criticize others. Just be at ease and go on mindlessly like a simpleton or a fool. Or, be like one who is sturck deaf and dumb. Spend your life as if you cannot hear a thing, or like an infant. Then, sooner or later, all delusions will disappear.” Kyong Ho

The above saying may sound very familiar to those with a more Christian background. “Do not judge and criticize and condemn others, so that you may not be judged and criticized and condemned yourselves. For just as you judge and criticize and condemn others, you will be judged and criticized and condemned, and in accordance with the measure you deal out to others, it will be dealt out again to you.” –Matthew 7:1-2

The Steps:
1. Read their name out loud.
2. Imagine their face in front of you.
3. Look into their eyes: steps 4-6.
4. Breathe in deeply and as you exhale…
5. Say, “I love you. Our purpose is Oneness.”
6. Breathe at least one complete cycle as you send love.

Alright, you don’t have to do the entire thousand or more, although if you have the time I’ll guarantee it will be worth the effort. You will notice some profound results afterward; some immediately and some over time. Sometimes we have down days.

Practicing this exercise on a day you feel a little down will change your energy dramatically. Notice the subtle shift toward a sense of joy and happier feelings; no competing thoughts in this moment.

The devotion and time you give to this process will reflect in the positive changes in your life. You may encounter much resistance and distraction. Our true selves, and some say our appointed duties, stem from a central core of LOVE.

Releasing to the ‘feeling’ of LOVE as you extend this welcome to all those on your list can shift both of your worlds. Give attention to noticeable changes in your experience for the next few weeks. Write them down when you can.

If you like this, there is more in Cosmic Conundrum: Who Am I?

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